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I am the girl * who likes to listen to music, * who likes to watch new movie, * who works with old people and try to loves her job, * who likes to go out and dance on the weekends, * who hangs out at her favorite coffee house with her friends for a laugh, * enjoys good food but doesn't know how to cook it, * who has cats for pets, * doesn't really know what to do with her life, * dreams of traveling the world but eventually wants to grow old in the country she grew up in.

Monday, February 23, 2009

Whose fault is it that I'm not married yet?

I have seen a lot of blog and forum posts on marriage lately that appear discouraging to single young women, so I wanted to share a few thoughts . . .

It seems that a lot of folks have an idea that if a girl’s over 18 and not married yet, it’s her fault. What I’ve been noticing is a bunch of people saying that girls who aren’t married are A) too picky or B) not trying hard enough to meet “eligible young men.” Although likely true in some circumstances, I don’t believe it to be the norm.

It saddens me to hear so many negative comments regarding why young women are still single. Being single is not an evil!

Young women who state that they are enjoying their singledom and not actively seeking a husband are told that they’re simply not trying hard enough to meet young men.

Enjoying singledom does not mean that we don’t desire to be married. Trust me, sometimes a girl can go out seven days a week, meeting new people, visiting friends, and still not meet anyone marriageable, or at least not anyone who would be a good “fit” for them.

Beautiful Hands,

- Maybe they just picked bad men. Sometimes it's best to be single if we like :)


3 comments:

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  2. being single is not an evil!!

    i agree..!!

    (well, sorry for deleting the previous comment, its too emotional..har3!!)

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  3. u need to know that being single is the best thing u can enjoy..when u have bf or husband..then u have so much thing u need to do..just enjoy..lets it go by the flow...

    buts some time we need to ask ourself.." chantek x aku ni"...mottip tetiba cantek ke tidak..mmm compius uolss...

    anyway..good luck uolss..mak yakin ade ramai jantan nak kat uolss nanti..nanti akak bg catelog anak ikan uols leh pilih yer...

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